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Thursday, August 30, 2012

Being single and waiting on the right man

Being single can be hard and lonely sometimes; the single life has it's pros and cons. I am single mother of two, and over the years I had to learned I'm never settling for less. Sometimes we single women settle for less than what we really want in order to have a man. The world places so much value and demand in being in a relationship and getting married that we women often devalues ourselves.

We women need to demand more for ourselves. If a guy doesn't want to commit you have two choices; kick him to the curb or be unhappy and settle for what he wants.  You can find out easily if a guy is in it for the long haul or just wants to hook up for sex. Make him wait until you know for sure you are in a committed relationship. A guy is not going to continue to date you if you not putting out; but of course there are men who are exception to this rule. Meaning some guys will go through desperate measures to try to get the poontang.

Only time will tell what he's all about You just have to be patient.
Eventually if you hold out it will be worth it; because sex will blind you and cloud your judgement and you can't and don't want to see the guy for what he really is

You will be surprise a guy will respect and appreciate you if you made him earned your respect; and not rush into bed with him. If a guy ditches you just because you not putting out fast enough he just did you a favor now you know where he's stand; that's how you weed out the good from the bad guys. If you would have rush into bed with him he probably just going to vanish; or keep you around until he wants you again but he would never commit to you.

If you feeling down and frustrated about being single just remember everyone in a relationship or married is not happy. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Its takes a lot of work for a relationship to work. You are worth having someone  who's going to cherish and love you for you. Remember to hold your head up high, and not settle for anything but the best, because you're worth it.

Friday, August 24, 2012

Dealing with Everyday Frustrations

Everyone deals with frustrations that's all part of life. When life knocks you down remember you can get back up again. Many times we try to do too many things at once. We often try to impress and compete with people in our lives. Whenever you feel defeated or things are not going as you plan; relax and take a deep breath.

Everyday that you wake up their is hope for today. You are here for a reason. Don't worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow will take care of itself. The world wasn't created all in one day. Reading self help books and; talking with positive friends and family members is always helpful.

Its always good to deal with people; who is on the same page is you. Stay away from negative friends, family members, etc who would love to see nothing more than to see you fail; or project their miseries and insecurities into your life. If you are religious person or whatever faith you belong to praying is good.

There is nothing wrong with talking about your frustrations, and problems with someone who has your best interest. Sometimes we try to be too strong for too long and eventually you will break. Even if you have to set one goal at a time; you can slowly moving toward accomplishing your goals. Don't ever feel like a failure. We all have to crawl before we walk.